Feeling Invisible? Then This Is For You

Spring is a time for blooming and coming to life again. However, whatever the season, many middle-aged women feel invisible, unnoticed. Being recognized for who we are is important. But as we get older, we sometimes don’t get the attention we used to receive. Whether or not it’s right, we sometimes learned to see ourselves through the admiring male gaze, which might have diminished. I always yearned to be seen, and I felt invisible, even as a child. Predominately an introvert, when I was 9, I typed a letter on my toy typewriter and signed my brother’s name. 

The missive described why he wanted to go on a television game show called The Big Payoff and win presents for me. My letter was selected! When we were on the show, he answered questions while I sat and smiled. At that time male voices, even those of boys, were the ones with sway. I kept behind the scenes, orchestrating what I wanted to happen for years, until that wasn’t enough. What is now most necessary for me is to have a purpose and feel visible. Here are some simple things you can do to stay visible yourself.