7 Things 'Love Your Age' Author Wants Generation X Women To Know
Oh, if I only knew then what I know now. Maybe my skin would have fewer brown spots, and maybe, just maybe, I would have had more good sex.
Adapted from Love Your Age (AARP/National Geographic, February 2018)
Oh, if I only knew then what I know now. Maybe my skin would have fewer brown spots, and maybe, just maybe, I would have had more good sex. Luckily, it's never too late to pick up a few tips from your girlfriends to add life to your years and sparks to your nights. And come on, ladies, don’t keep these new habits to yourself — spread the word, even to those millennials.
Add walking to your runs. You don’t need to go hardcore on exercise to reap the maximum benefits. I hated running until I discovered Jeff Galloway’s Run-Walk-Run program whereby you run for a period of time, then take a short walk break, then run again. Repeat. It’s easier on your joints and knees, and it doesn’t have to slow you down. In fact, my time has improved and I can sustain the stamina for long runs. Running this way helped me complete five marathons, one ultramarathon, and tons of shorter races. But who's counting?
Vibrate your way to better sex. All phases of sex can be fun and pleasurable, but sometimes we need a little extra help to get to the big payoff. Regardless of age, an estimated 70 percent of women need direct clitoral stimulation in order to orgasm. Not only that, women who bring themselves to orgasm before intercourse report having more intense experiences. Instead of saving your personal toy for when you’re flying solo, bring it out during foreplay, and get ready to be blown away.
Schedule the sex. All those years waiting for sex to happen spontaneously! What a waste of time! Too bad no one told me that the best sex is planned sex: Put it in your calendar, start thinking about it, prepping for it, dressing for it, teasing your partner about it — and by the time the sex date rolls around, you’ll be swinging from the chandeliers (and don’t forget the vibrator).
Barbara Grufferman, 61, a nationally recognized advocate for positive living, is the author of Love Your Age (AARP/National Geographic, February 2018)